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The Art of Self Love

The Art of Self Love by Nathalie Strassburg

SHORTCUTS: Self Love First, The Languages of Self Love, Unifying Love, The Spectrum of Self Love

Self Love First

Others reflect the love we give to ourselves, prove it to yourself. We can only care for another’s emotional well being when we know how to care for our own. Honesty and acceptance allow us to open a secret door to our inner self. Intimacy is about seeing, feeling, hearing, understanding and knowing our authentic true self.

The Languages of Self Love

Words of Self-affirmation

Encouragement, appreciation, empathy, honesty, listening to ourselves, focussing on our higher self. Showing ourselves compassion and speaking kindly to ourselves. Soothe ourselves during stressful times with positive statements and affirming truths. Daily use of Personal affirmations – listening, writing, reading, speaking, chanting, and singing. Journaling to understand one self, recognize our gifts, heal, and grow.


Gifts of Self Love

Cultivating self awareness. Thoughtful gifts and gestures from the heart, and with expressions of gratitude. Gifts that nourish our mind, body, soul and spirit. Recognizing all the gifts we receive by just being alive, recognizing that the source of all we have is life, nothing really belongs to any of us. This sets us free. Being grateful to life is receiving a gift, it fills us. Investing in ourselves. Making our thoughts our best friends. Recognizing our efforts and being open to feedback for growth. Having patience with our own growth. Relaxing and taking time to enjoy just being.


Acts of Self Service

Action phrases that affirm positive beliefs, supports growth, releases grievances. Doing what is in our best interest and for the highest benefit of all. Meeting our needs in healthy ways. Meeting our emotional needs. Developing talents and interests. Making our physical and emotional well being our priority and our responsibility to the greatest degree possible. Following our authentic joy. Being authentic. Cultivating higher aspirations for our life. Facing our pain, healing the past and opening our hearts. Saying No. Saying no to co-dependency and yes to interdependency. Setting and maintaining healthy boundaries. Living a higher purpose. Friendship. Living with positive intentions and empowering others. Balance in giving and receiving support.


Quality Self Time

Uninterrupted and focused conversations, writing, journaling, using a diary, recording, prayer, any one-on-one time with ourselves. Stillness is quality time. Meditation. Contemplation and introspection. Self-inquiry. Creative expression. Honoring ourselves, our feelings, and our needs. Doing something special or unusual for ourselves. Reading or watching uplifting content. Time in Nature. Rest, recovery, and sleep.


Being Present in our Body

Non-verbal expressions such as touch, cuddling, stroking, massage, moving meditations, acts of self-care, long baths, warm shower, spa, exercise, hygiene, grooming, pampering, masturbating, tantra, yoga, dancing, qigong etc. Learning to trust our body’s inner wisdom.  Paying attention to ourselves, our feelings, our thoughts, and being mindful.

Unifying Love

Mind

This is us as the Actor, and the highest manifestation is Peace. The mind learns love through the ability to judge and forgive. Through contemplation we develop self awareness, compassion and acceptance for all the roles we play. With self awareness comes the ability to see the power we have to be who we want to be, regardless of the past, and we consciously choose to develop and play our best self in this life.

Body

This is us as the Inquirer, and the highest manifestation is Grace. The body learns love through feeling and investigation. This is all about cultivating self awareness and developing trust in the intelligence of life and the body.

Spirit

This is us as the Liberator, and the highest manifestation is Universal Love. Our spirit learns love through intuition and cultivating the use of our will to aspire to higher love.

Soul

This is us as the Creator, and the highest manifestation is Joy. Our soul learns love through our authentic joy, developing the use of our imagination, and expressing ourselves creatively.

The Spectrum of Self Love

Instinctive self – Server: to help. To balance, give unconditional love to yourself.

Tribal self – Artisan: to create. To balance, do creative things that you love.

Compulsive self – Sage: to entertain. To balance, learn to discipline yourself with love and compassion.

Rational self – Scholar: to learn. To balance, learn to love playing.

Achiever self – Warrior: to achieve. To balance, appreciate yourself.

Ecological self – Priest/Priestess: to inspire. To balance, aspire to universal love.

Integrated self – King/Queen: to be a role model. To balance, expand your idea of love.

Holistic self – Higher Self: to be. To balance, be love.

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Emotional Well-being

Emotional Well-being by Nathalie Strassburg

SHORTCUTS: What is emotional well-being?, Feelings guide us, Psychological Projection, The relationship with ourselves (self soothing, self care, self love, higher love)

We are each beautiful and whole on our own, even when we are not fully aware of it yet. Each of us have needs to meet in order to feel fulfilled and live an authentic life. Sometimes we can feel unhappy, lost, or unloved without realizing that it can be resolved within ourselves, regardless of our circumstances. Learn about The Art of Self Love.

When we are unhappy all that is happening is that we are choosing things that make us unhappy. Unhappiness is a state of confusion.

Depression can be a major catalyst for the Process of Transformation. Being depressed means you are ready to move to the next level!

Many of us never learned how to care for our emotional well-being and find our joy. Nobody here is a victim in any way whatsoever, we are here to learn together.

What is emotional well-being?

Emotional wellbeing means you feel good, about yourself, your life, the people around you, what do you, what you say and everything in between. It is a state of inner and outer harmony. Emotional wellbeing is only authentic if it does not depend on an external source.

Negative emotions create disorder in the body and positive feelings such as gratitude create increased order resulting in improved digestive, cardiovascular, immune, hormonal, cognitive, and other functions like intuition.

To learn more about this visit www.heartmath.org.

Feelings guide us, they are our compass.

Our feelings guide us. They are our direct feedback system designed to let us know in which direction to go. All feelings are valid because they need to be allowed and understood if we want to integrate all parts of our consciousness.

Many people are raised in unhealthy emotional environments, this is part of our evolution, but it needs to be understood because it creates characters who do not know how to be honest, trust themselves, the world, others, or their feelings, and who suppress, deny, and reject parts of themselves that their parents or caregivers were not able to accept or love because they have their own unresolved emotional wounds. Emotional immaturity is passed down unconsciously because people are not aware of it.

Psychological Projection

Everything we see is a projection from our mind. Read more about it in Life as a game. The mind has an image of what it desires, judges as valuable and then seeks to find it. These images are projected outward, and this is what we think we see, what we think is real and what we base our behavior on. Therefore, what is in our mind will determine what we create. This is why childhood conditioning is our toolbox with which we create, for better or worse, unless we consciously grow and expand ourselves continuously. 

It is important to learn to distinguish between love and guilt. Codependent relationships are fear based and present guilt as care or love. In codependent relationships we project our unresolved emotional issues onto those around us. Codependent relationships can become clingy because without someone else holding our emotional baggage for us, we have to deal with it ourselves, which is what leads to growth.

If we grow up in an environment where the parents are not able to care for their own emotional well-being, we will not know what unconditional love is and without resolution we will recreate the same patterns in our own relationships because we will not be able to discern between guilt and love. Be aware of how prevalent these patterns are, for example, organized religion can be a codependent relationship based on fear.

The relationship with ourselves

There is ultimately only one relationship that is important. Any other relationship we have will reflect the one we have with ourselves, whether we are conscious enough to notice it or not. The relationship with ourselves is about The Art of Self Love and the foundation of the Process of Transformation.

Self Soothing

First, we learn to accept every feeling, and choose to consciously move ourselves to a better frame of mind, every time it is needed. This is what emotionally mature parents teach their children. All emotions want to, and need to, be seen, felt, heard, and understood. We only judge things that we do not understand. In order to integrate our consciousness all aspects are brought into balance and harmony. We give ourselves compassion for being human and learn through every experience. Every experience contains a piece of gold, pain is our greatest teacher.

Self Care

As we accept ourselves more, we become more honest with ourselves and make decisions that lead us to peace and joy. What we eat, where we live, how we live, who we spend our time with, and how we spend our time become a real priority and we take the steps necessary to care for ourselves in every way possible, one step at a time. When we choose peace then things become allot simpler. During this stage we start to trust life because we have real evidence as we achieve manageable goals.  

Self Love

Love seeds love. Through self care we embrace ourselves, we show ourselves love through the actions and thoughts we now choose. We notice how our beliefs are changing, and we realize that others reflect the love we have for ourselves. We open our minds to see the incredible gift that we are and that life is. We realize that love is something we grow inside of ourselves. We realize that we can only give to others what we have. As we grow in love for life and ourselves we are able to feel compassion for others and choose to understand before judging. We choose to forgive, all the time, because it sets us free. Because we are no longer fearful we can be fully present to the moment, whatever it offers us.

Higher Love

As we become more intimate with ourselves and life we expand our consciousness through the integration of seemingly opposite ideas. We create inner peace. Our vision is no longer obscured by fear and we embody our true authentic self more every day. The love we give ourselves is now continuously being refilled by life, we have surrendered, we live in love, we feel love in everything and everywhere, and see it in everyone now because we understand what the journey of life is really for. We live free and at peace, and the world around us reflect this. We choose to share this higher love in whatever situation we find ourselves because there is nothing else that compares. Life now lives through us.

Recognize that the source of all we have is life, nothing really belongs to any of us. This sets us free. Give to life what we want to receive.

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Soul Connections

Soul Connections by Nathalie Strassburg

We are like molecules that fit into each other. From a passing glimpse, a friendship to a romantic tale, they are the ones that we are attracted to. I think attraction is something completely impersonal for the purpose of learning and evolution.

I have had a number of cases where the Profiles vehicle configurations come together with obvious potential conscious to both parties, but where the character development is incompatible, for example due to spiritual development, emotional development, lifestyle or psychological attachment style. If we can look at attraction as something designed for learning, to show us our shadow and to trigger unresolved emotional issues for resolution, then we can liberate our relationships.

Integrity

Emotional immaturity is probably the greatest barrier to harmonious relationships. Unresolved issues that present themselves as emotional reactions break down the trust in a relationship because they are fear based.

Shadow work and healthy boundaries are essential for self development and honesty in a relationship.

Integrity is the foundation of any authentic or emotionally mature relationship. A mature relationship respects the unique individual and is found on trust and mutual understanding.

Higher Purpose

From a Higher Self perspective we meet exactly the right people at the right time based on our current configuration in order to develop our spiritual self which requires awareness, release and forgiveness.

The moment we start casting people into roles in our lives we get up to all kinds of interesting stories. We lose our Self in make-believe-I-am-a-some-body, sometimes with hundreds of roles.

Ultimately psychological projection shows that we are an actor to others, and play the movie director casting actors in roles in our own fantasy, created from childhood conditioning, fears, and desires. Read more about it in Life as a game.

As a game of spiritual development with the goal of self realization nothing is ever random and there are people with whom we have bonds that go beyond any human mind understanding.

Types of Soul Connections

Family

The family that we are born into is not random at all. I have seen so many patterns through Human Design profiles that it is unmistakable. You can look at my Human Design family tree here to get an idea of what I mean if you have a basic understanding of the system. The interesting thing is that the common pattern is opposites come together. A parent who cannot sit still will inevitably have a child who embodies stillness, or the father who is a major financial achiever will inevitable have a child who cannot or will not be an achiever.

Our families are probably the least compatible individuals we spend a significant amount of time with. Conditioning in this way allows for the greatest amount of diversity and potential. It is very important that children are allowed to individuate. It requires some level of emotional maturity in the parents otherwise we end up with enmeshment, co-dependency and other unhealthy dynamics. Many people never become who they really are because they fear the loss of connection from their family. Many of us do not mature if our family are not emotionally mature, and maturing requires us to change the relationship we have with our family, sometimes we have to let go when unconditional love is not possible. The world needs people who see things differently and are willing to do things differently.


Chance Encounters

Just being in the same space as someone else affects us in ways that we cannot always understand. Just one meeting with someone that embodies a frequency you have never encountered will noticeably affect you. I have had people I just met comment on how they feel around me, and how they feel after they leave.

I have met people at an art exhibition or a gas station that I felt was deeply meaningful. We just never forget some people.


Friendship

This is my favorite type of soul connection because it is free to be whatever it can be. I think that in many cases this should be a conscious choice even if there is sexual attraction. As we regain our enthusiasm for developing self discipline we become less overwhelmed by sexual desires and choose higher ideals for our relationships.

I believe we can love many people deeply and share in healthy relationships for everyone’s benefit. Intimacy is about allot more than physical closeness. Physical intimacy can have a higher purpose and even be present in friendships, but it will be free from compulsion or expectations because the meaning will be different.


Romance

Our deep desire for spiritual reunion (energetic reunion with our source) is the foundation of attraction. When the attraction is strong enough it can be an incredibly powerful force. Love is the foundation of this universe and we prove it to ourselves all the time. The only relationships that really last are ones that include mutual growth and development towards self actualization / self realization. Self love will always come first.

There are superficial ego based romances that are vital for evolution. These can be short or long, troubled, intense and commonly involve children.

Soulmates are those soul connections that can stop us in our tracks. They are meaningful bonds where a deep authentic connection is possible. We desire to be closer to the other person and can fall in love. Age, race and gender do not matter in these bonds. These are the relationships where we get to know ourselves and our conditioning. It is really a form of pushing upward spiritually even if it is unconscious. Incompatibility here can be a major issue and we do not always see it because of the emotions that come with it.

Twin flame soul connections are really something different. They come with an unstoppable force to open our heart. The experience often triggers an inner burning and can be a major catalyst for the Process of transformation. We experience ourselves in another body, the similarities are undeniable across the board. It is a mind altering experience where we are overcome with unconditional love and compassion. In an aura like this we can hear each other’s thoughts and know each others feelings when empathetic abilities or sensitivities have been developed, which is common at this stage of spiritual development. These connections come when either or both have developed sufficiently spiritually (inner healing) for a heart opening experience. Even in these cases there may be significant incompatibility but the powerful effect on both individuals is unmistakable, it is a spiritual wake-up call, neither will ever be the same again no matter how long it lasts.


Higher Love

As we dissolve the unnecessary through the Process of transformation we open our vehicle to greater love frequencies, and embody our higher self or soul consciousness. Through the process of self love, self knowing, or self realization we no longer see ourselves as the character or roles. Because we are not attached to our personality we see and experience life and love differently. In this state love is all around us, felt in everything and we see the divine in everyone. We are in love with life and want to share our love with those around us unconditionally. This state invites pure soul connections that are free, authentic and devoted to a higher purpose. Read more about it in A Different Kind of Love.


If life is designed for constant evolution, then how are we preventing expansion based on old ideas about what relationships and family structures should look like. I think that is why our relationships have changed some much in many places around the world.

As spiritual beings we are all each others brothers and sisters. We all belong together as one whole. The idea of separation is the primary illusion, it is what makes this game possible.

I think as more people learn everyday psychology, shadow work and choose to focus on self actualization we will interact differently, and new types of relationship dynamics will become more common. I think we will see more modern tribal structures.


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A Different Kind of Love

A different kind of love - by Nathalie Strassburg

True intimacy is taking another as yourself, loving them as yourself. That is why self-love comes first. Only when we love ourselves unconditionally do we become capable of loving another in a clean aura of love.

Love is corrupted by fear. In a world where fear dominates, we are unable to discern between love and fear unless we raise our frequency into one of love. Through the frequency of fear love becomes guilt. When guilt is the foundation of any relationship it cannot be harmonious. Guilt creates a great deal of stress and leads to compulsive actions taken out of fear, in an attempt to cover up the underlying feelings of fear and guilt. Fear is the foundation of any co-dependent relationship.

When we do not love ourselves, we use people to project unresolved emotional patterns on. It cannot be otherwise because we are energy. Energy that continuously seeks balance and equilibrium. True intimacy sees no separation between you and the other. We can understand that everything is a relationship.

True intimacy can only exist in a field of love which is created through integrity and honesty.

Each of us are powerful creative beings, which means that just one party in a relationship has to create through a frequency of fear in order to affect the entire relationship. Every single thought, word and action is either taken from a frequency of love or fear, every creative act has a charge, which means nothing is neutral. That is why honesty is an integral part of unconditional love and acceptance.

Like attracts like, fear can bring people together just as much as love can. In so many cases it is fear of intimacy, fear of rejection and fear of lack that bring people together so that we can see in each other what we fear the most. It is only when we believe in a lack of love and see it as a scare commodity that it becomes an exclusive thing, that what you give to one person takes away from another and similar types of limiting beliefs.

Fear is not something of itself, even though we can witness its effects, fundamentally it is just a lack of love, it is a perception of lack of love. Fear is a belief in what is false. It is fear and love that repel each other. That is why when we do shadow work and clean our system, our relationships change, sometimes dramatically. It cannot be otherwise because we are energy systems. These fears show us the limiting beliefs that need to be resolved to move our frequency higher.

The only thing we ever really have to accept and understand is that we can only change ourselves. The deep learning is that we cannot take responsibility for anyone else. Free will is the power we each wield. Every decision is a choice between love and fear. 

The only thing we ever really have to accept and understand is that we can only change ourselves. The deep learning is that we cannot take responsibility for anyone else. Free will is the power we each wield. Nobody is a victim, ever. Every decision is a choice between love and fear. 

Fear creates confusion and self-doubt because it does not contain the ingredients for love. We are continuously receiving feedback from the universe through our feelings. When we learn to embrace and understand our feelings, we can use them to guide us to love.   

Our evolution is a revolution of relationships. It is a revolution of love. A revolution that starts within. We transform our inner relationship with love, which is what affects our world and society.

Intimacy and pure love are the foundation of all existence because love is the frequency that creates eternally without interference. Wholesome love it is the most natural thing for us to do, but as we travel through cycles, we will inevitably find ourselves at a point where we build entire cultures out of fear and structure societies in resistance to love.

The love I am talking about is a higher love. The ability to love many people deeply. To love life deeply.

The ability to see the most beautiful and greatest in everyone and fall in love with that intoxicating spirit over and over again. It is a love that is free of quilt and shame. It is a love that gives. This is a universal love that is not exclusive. This is a kind of love that is based on mutual respect, interdependency, transparency, and higher purpose. It is a mature love and requires emotional maturity of all parties involved, that is why it is part of our evolution.    

Every decision, that means every thought, word or action is a choice between fear and love. When you live this truth, it changes everything. This is what our intuition is for, once we learn to trust it then we always know the right way to go in every situation. The right way being the one that leads to greater love and joy. We are made for joy. That is why our pleasures can be so irresistible. There is an important distinction between following sense pleasures and following our unconditional joy. They lead in opposite directions. The one believes itself a body and the other something greater with potential.

The path of integrity is a conscious choice that is made when the consciousness is ready. The first step is always that we start to care for ourselves better. We start by changing the relationship we have on the inside, one decision at a time.  

We continuously draw the right people into our lives at the right time, magnetically we will draw a match that will push us higher to learn. When you live it consciously it can really feel like a game. Every encounter makes up the small steps that reveal life to us. Where we want to go must be a conscious choice to love, every time. It gets easier over time.

In Hinduism they talk about Karma yoga, and this is really what it is. You dedicate your life to your higher purpose of allowing each situation to work for your benefit. In a society where few live in solitude this will be the most significant yoga path for many.  The other being Tantra Yoga, Jnana yoga (the path of knowledge and self-realization), and Bhakti yoga (the path of loving devotion to a personal god or self-divinity).  Ideally we want to practice all of them in any way that we can, as often as we can. This is the fastest path to raising frequency, feeling lighter, loved and being filled with joy.

People will reflect the love we have for ourselves. This is what makes it so magical.

When we can see others as our energetic brothers and sisters we can truly love everyone for who they are because they exist in relationship to my self. Individually we are unique expressions of source energy. Together we are one expression of source consciousness. We are like the rays of the sun, we can never be apart. This is the art of ultimate defenselessness where all fear is replaced by love. This is the truth of who we are.    


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