SHORTCUTS: Introduction, Integrity, Higher Purpose, The Spectrum of Relationships: Introduction, Family, Chance Encounters, Friendship, Romance, Karmic Relationships, Soul Mates, Sacred Partnerships & Twin Flames, Holy Relationships, Animal Companions, Spirit Relationships, Spiritual Guide Relationships, and Higher Love
We are like molecules that fit into each other. From a passing glimpse, a friendship to a romantic tale, they are the ones that we are magnetically attracted to. Attraction is something completely impersonal for the purpose of learning and evolution because everyone we come into contact with is seen through the filters of our own projections and mental filters.
If we can look at attraction as something designed for learning, to show us our shadow and to trigger unresolved emotional issues for resolution, then we can liberate our relationships.
Emotional immaturity is probably the greatest barrier to harmonious relationships. Unresolved issues that present themselves as emotional reactions break down the trust in a relationship because they are fear based.
In the earlier stages of new relationships the reality is often obscured, especially when we have conditioned relationship strategies based on insecure attachment. We mirror each other both consciously and unconsciously, in order for things to flow, and then as the relationship progresses we allow more of ourselves to be seen because we feel safe, and things we can’t hide indefinitely start to show, and so incompatibilities can take anything from a few weeks, months or years to show. We think people change but we just become more ourselves in relationships over time.
In order for harmony to be maintained in any relationship it will require commitment and balancing the masculine and feminine aspects within each individual and with each other. Shadow work and healthy boundaries are essential for self-development and harmonious relationships.
Integrity is the foundation of any authentic or emotionally mature relationship. A mature relationship respects the unique individual, and is found on trust and mutual understanding.
From a higher perspective we meet exactly the right people at the right time based on our current configuration in order to develop our spiritual self which requires awareness, release, and forgiveness.
The moment we start casting people into roles in our lives we get up to all kinds of interesting stories. We lose ourselves in make-believe-I-am-a-some-body, sometimes with hundreds of roles.
Ultimately psychological projection shows that we are an actor to others, and play the movie director casting actors in roles in our own fantasy, created from childhood conditioning, fears, and desires. Read more about it in Life as a game.
As a game of spiritual development with the goal of self-realization, self-fulfillment, and self-love nothing is ever random and there are people with whom we have bonds that go beyond any conscious human understanding.
The Spectrum of Relationships
The Spectrum of Relationships is a framework to understand the nature and purpose of different relationships in our lives. Our subjective human experience is an evolution of awareness so we are often not aware of our own situation or potential without seeing a larger picture. We often do now allow relationships to serve their purpose because we become entangled in beliefs and values we adopted from our society and culture. Fear prevents many people from moving on to better and more harmonious relationships because they are not aware that this is a primary feature of the design of the entire system of life.
When we trust life, focus on getting our lessons in every situation, listen to the feedback we get from life, master ourselves, master our desires, and take the necessary actions to achieve self-realization through our higher purpose and self-fulfillment we will allow our lives to unfold and continuously move into higher and higher frequencies.
The family that we are born into is not random at all. In most cases it will bring opposites come together in order to allow for the greatest expansion. A parent who cannot sit still will inevitably have a child who embodies stillness, or the father who is a major financial achiever will inevitable have a child who cannot or will not be a similar achiever.
Our families are probably the least compatible individuals we spend a significant amount of time with. Conditioning in this way allows for the greatest amount of diversity and potential. It is very important that children are allowed to individuate. It requires some level of emotional maturity in the parents otherwise we end up with enmeshment, co-dependency and other unhealthy dynamics. Many people never become who they really are because they fear the loss of connection from their family. Many of us do not mature if our family are not emotionally mature, and maturing requires us to change the relationship we have with our family, sometimes we have to let go. The world needs people who see things differently, and are willing to do things differently.
Just being in the same space as someone else affects us in ways that we cannot always understand with our conscious mind because of projection and the exchange of energy that takes place. Just one meeting with someone that embodies a frequency we have never encountered will noticeably affect us. We can meet someone at an art exhibition or a gas station that deeply affects us. We just never forget some people because they represent some part in ourselves. Once we can see the world from a metaphysical perspective and understand the psychology of projection it is easier to grasp these encounters and their purpose in our lives.
Friendships have the potential to be the best type of relationship because they can be free from compulsions. Friendships can last from a few hours, days, or a lifetime. When a relationship is free from compulsion it has the greatest opportunity to teach us because we can be honest with each other, learn the most about ourselves, others, and the world. In a friendship we have the greatest amount of freedom to change and evolve as we focus on our own development.
Our deep desire for spiritual reunion (energetic reunion with our source) is the foundation of attraction. When the attraction is strong enough it can be an incredibly powerful force. Love is the foundation of this universe and we prove it to ourselves all the time. There are many different types of romantic relationships, from fantasy relationships, casual encounters, short term hookups, a few months, and then longer term relationships.
Romantic relationships are connections that focus predominately in the lower 4 chakras / energy centers (root, sacral, navel, and solar plexus). The only relationships that can be harmonious and long lasting include mutual growth and development towards self actualization which requires the relationship to move into the hear chakra and through to the higher chakras / energy centers (heart, thyroid, throat, eye, and crown), which makes it a soul mate or sacred partnership. The reason these higher chakra relationships are still in the minority is because romantic love is primarily associated with fulfilling basic needs like safety, stability, security, emotional experiences, desires, sexual and physically intimate experiences, ego gratification, self-esteem, and other pleasure based experiences. In general these are superficial ego based romances that are for reproduction. These can be short or long, troubled, intense and commonly involve children.
Most romantic relationships are individuals who come together because their trauma bonds are compatible. These are relationships that come to help us heal unresolved emotional trauma. They are not healthy relationships, often inauthentic (even unconsciously), codependent, and often have a similar dynamic we had with our parents, especially if we have a difficult relationship with one parent. Once we become aware of how our past affects our current relationships, do the work to heal our emotional body, and learn to distinguish between healthy and unhealthy love, then our relationship template is updated and we will attract healthier partners into our lives. Sometimes some people come into our lives simply so that we can say no, I have learned the lesson.
Karmic Relationships are relationships between individuals that are for the purpose of manifesting karma and situations to resolve emotional trauma. This means that these relationships cannot and will not evolve past the 4 lower charkas / energy centers (root, sacral, navel, and solar plexus). Trauma bonds, as mentioned above, will be present along with incompatibility and general disharmony. What sets a karmic relationship apart from other relationship types is that there will be a lack of unconditional love, and they can be extremely difficult to detach from because most people have allot of unresolved emotional trauma from just living in the current world.
These relationships are energetic bonds created with our root, sacral, navel, and solar plexus energy centers / chakras which makes them very intense (or later very boring), compulsive, and we often loose our unique identity in these relationships because their presence requires a lack of development in the solar plexus center which governs our will, self-confidence, and self-assurance.
Trauma bonds are very deep energetic blocks in our energy field, and in order to free ourselves from these bonds we have to integrate allot of unconscious information. Transcending these relationships requires us to do emotional body work, some form of therapy, gain deeper psychological self-awareness, and become self-empowered. This is why so many people get stuck in these relationships.
Think of individuals who are in unhealthy relationships with their parents, or a couple who cannot seem to let go of their passionate but troubled relationship no matter what they do. Karmic relationships can often be associated with violence and aggression because they are triggering deep immature emotional energy.
It can be dangerous to continue in these relationships once the universe has presented opportunities for the individuals to move apart. Remaining in these relationships after the emotional triggers have occurred can affect everything in our lives, and everything we attempt to create. Once these relationships come to an end it is vital for the individuals to spend enough time on their own in order to process the lessons they learned, otherwise they will repeat the same lessons in the next relationship they get involved in.
Soul Mates are those soul connections that starts to open our hearts. They are connections that form in the lower 4 chakras / energy centers and into the heart center. They are meaningful bonds where a deeper authentic connection is possible when there is complementary compatibility and maturity.
In Soul Mate connections we we get to know our authentic self, our conditioning, and we learn what it means to experience greater degrees of unconditional love. They can still be a positive or negative experience depending on our attachment style, masculine and feminine balance, current energetic configuration, relationship template, and level of awareness.
These experiences are powerful drivers for the Process of transformation and shadow work because they teach us what we really want, and need in order to be self-empowered individuals. We are always provided with what we need to expand our consciousness, realize inner truth, and achieve self-fulfillment. Authentic Self-love is the highest vibration frequency in this world.
If both individuals are mature enough we learn how to grow in love and share life experiences with another through interdependence, healthy boundaries, and self-fulfillment.
Sacred Partnerships & Twin Flames
A true Sacred Partnership or Twin Flame connection is an uplifting, loving, compassionate, mature, and lasting relationship with a companion that is truly compatible on a physical, mental, emotional and spiritual level. These Sacred Partnerships are beyond romance even if they may contain it, and they are identified by the devotion of two individuals to their individual higher purpose and self-actualization.
These connections have the possibility of connecting through all 9 chakras / energy centers: root, sacral, navel, solar plexus, heart, thyroid, throat, eye, and crown. This type of relationship is only possible when the lower 4 chakras / energy centers are coherent, and the emotional body has been healed to a great extent. These relationships are recognized by the unconditional love that is present because these individuals have balanced their masculine and feminine aspects within themselves, developed self-love, and unconditional love within themselves which they can now share. Because the heart connection is present it allows the individuals to continue to do their personal transformation for self-actualization in a safe space. In these relationships nothing is hidden and we are continuously expressing our authentic self and our needs. These relationships are for individuals who are consciously realizing inner truth, developing their intuition and higher abilities, self-actualizing, and growing in their spiritual connection to all of life.
The easiest way to distinguish these relationships is that they are harmonious 95% of the time and they will not be focused on issues relating to safety, security, emotions, lower frequency desires, sexuality, and self-assurance because these individuals have already worked through the issues relating to the lower chakras and their lives, and lifestyle will be the evidence for it.
Holy Relationships & Twin Flames
In some cases the universe will bring together two individuals who are each other’s extreme opposite, black and white, to such a degree that they are not compatible for any other relationship but a holy one intended for spiritual liberation, shadow work, and unconditional love. A holy relationship serves the collective by bringing two individuals together for energy exchange and awareness so that they can balance the masculine and feminine aspects within themselves, and then with each other. These two individuals will have a magnetic attraction, but can exhibit polar opposite traits, habits, values, beliefs, and they can dislike many things about each other initially. This energetic dynamic may be obscured initially through projection or it may not, but time will reveal the purpose of the relationship.
The defining factor for a holy relationships is that the two individuals can develop a spiritual bond that transcends both friendship and romance, even if they may include it at various stages, and that can last for the rest of their lives. It is important not to confuse a holy relationship with a sacred partnership which is a relationship based on compatibility and complementary traits, habits, values, and beliefs.
Animal Companions have always played a significant role in human relationships and they still do. For many people, specifically those with insecure attachment, it is vital for their survival because animals, and especially dogs, channel source energy without much resistance. This means that the animal becomes a source of unconditional love and acceptance. Animals can play a similar mirroring role that humans do where they can teach us about our conditioning, and that is why we often see some similarities between the human and their animal companion. The relationship also creates a safe space where we can develop certain skills required for holistic development and personal growth such as the capacity for intimacy, trust, and unconditional love. Animal companions can also help humans regulate their nervous system, be mindful, and balance their hormones. One of the greatest gifts of an animal companion is the ability to do inner child work together.
Spiritual relationships play different roles in various cultures and can vary greatly due to the individual subjective experience of life, conditioning, and the innate abilities each human vehicle has and can develop. The most significant aspect of this relationship is that it has the ability to create a secure relationship for an individual and allow them to develop trust, intuitive abilities, understanding, insight and unconditional love. This relationship can be with an imaginary friend, an ancient spiritual master, a god, gods, spiritual guides, ancestors, thought forms, and other energetic beings that inhabit different dimensions including the collective unconscious. With these relationships the purpose and benefit is more important than the type. These relationships can be both positive and negative, negative experiences are learning opportunities, usually to develop strength and awareness.
All things supernatural, energy forms, thought forms, aliens, spirits, and other worldly beings are all different forms of energy that exist in different dimensions. We can experience and see them depending on our own level of awareness. They are as we are, and subject to polarity to various degrees because we are all part of the manifested worlds. Consciousness is the source of all forms, beyond all of it, and beyond the polarity of good, and bad.
Spiritual Guide Relationships
Those who have expanded their consciousness and achieved coherence in all 9 energy centers (root, sacral, navel, solar plexus, heart, thyroid, throat, eye, and crown) are a special gift to the world and those individuals who come into contact with them. Ultimately they make us aware of our own potential and inspire us to expand our own consciousness. Our experience of a Spiritual Guide varies depending on our own current level of awareness.
As we dissolve the unnecessary through the Process of transformation and the tension for transformation we open our vehicle to greater love frequencies, and embody our higher self or soul consciousness. Through the process of self-love, self-knowing, self-realization, self-actualization, and self-fulfillment we no longer see ourselves as the character or roles. When we are no longer attached to our personality we can see and experience life, and love, from a metaphysical perspective. In this state of unconditional love, love it is all around us, felt in everything and we see the beauty and truth in everyone.