We are living in an interesting time with many changes around us. There is a greater purpose to all that is happening. The best strategy is to align ourselves with the pattern that we are in so that we can flow with the changes and experience harmony, peace and prosperity regardless of what is going on in the world.
What is going on?
So what is going on? We are in the early stages of a longer term cycle to remedy underlying energetic stagnation through the tension of transformation. We can already see greater instability in nearly all areas of our lives. Political, social and economical instability are the physical manifestations of the energetic changes that are happening. The majority of social, political and economical systems are going through a period of decay and change that will continue as we move towards something that is more sustainable.
What is the greater purpose?
What is the greater purpose of it? We are entering into a time that will allow for reflection, greater sensitivity, greater awareness, and healing of the unresolved trauma and emotional energy that is a part of our evolutionary journey and the underlying cause of the trouble we see in individuals, our relationships, and communities. These changes will allow us to become more sustainable within ourselves, and create a more sustainable world.
How can we prepare ourselves?
The best way to prepare ourselves is through the perspective we choose to have. Unsustainable ways will not work anymore. We can see this as an opportunity to create the kind of world we want to live in, from where we are, and what we are capable of. This is not something that will be lead by governments or large organizations, it will come from individuals, an inner revolution, because we are the vehicles through which consciousnesstransforms.
The kind of perspective that embraces change includes equanimity, optimism, using the tension of transformation and allowing change to occur within us, and in our lives by making any changes we can to our lifestyle that make things simpler and easier.
Take care of your emotional well-being. Do shadow work, learn to see the world from a metaphysical perspective, and learn how to use your dreams to guide you to greater awareness.
Cultivate a growth mindset, and release thoughts and beliefs of victimization.
Understand the Spectrum of Relationships, commit to compatible relationships, and let go of people who are not compatible so that the right people can find each other.
If possible, grow a garden with some basic herbs, fruits and vegetables. You can also join others or create community gardens. Creating a garden is a powerful alchemical process that will transform you from the inside.
Become more self-sufficient so that you travel less, and require less imports and goods that come from far away.
Rely less on governments and organizations that are unsustainable.
Invest some of your energy in your community and neighbors.
Find a higher purpose to live for by following your authentic joy. Money and pleasure are not sustainable purposes.
Spend more time doing activities that are uplifting and nourishing, for example: art (you can learn Intuitive Geometry), dancing, playing, spending time outside, talking about uplifting subjects, reading about people and subjects that are inspiring, watching educational media, walking in nature, gardening, writing, meditating, making or listening to uplifting music, dreaming, relaxing, and being still.
Learn to relax and be still. Excessive thinking and activities are a reflection of the energetic instabilities, learn to bring your energetic system into greater coherence and equilibrium through your breath and focusing your awareness on one thing.
Develop your intuitive abilities, it is life’s intelligence guiding you. Science shows us that our intuitive abilities rely on the degree of coherence we can embody.
Learn to appreciate yourself, life as it is, nature, animals and the people around you.
Release any grievances, and practice forgiveness and compassion.
Create daily practices that bring inner peace such as contemplation, affirmations, and gratitude.
Expand your consciousness by integrating new ideas, letting go of old beliefs and limiting ideas that do not serve you or bring you joy. Expand your awareness of the Spectrum of Spirit Consciousness.
We can choose to understand war, conflict, and peace from a greater perspective, instead of falling into the traps of the intellectual mind that gets caught up in what, who, why, the right, and wrong. Conflict is like inflammation, it is part of the individual, regional, global, and universal process of energy transformation. War is an intense flare-up that indicates additional energy is being focused to resolve the underlying conflict. To judge conflict by looking at the current effect on individuals, countries or the world is a mental trap that feeds the conflict. Instead, I invite you to expand your consciousness. If you must use the mind, first seek to understand all sides of any conflict, as if you are each side, until you can identify with both empathically. This process might require creativity and the study of years of history. Then seek to understand it from a metaphysical perspective that serves all of humanity.
This is the essence of shadow work, transmutation, and transformation.
Thoughts of war, conflict, anger, and resistance create more conflict. Choose thoughts that bring you inner peace, and it affects all of life.
I Ching Hexagram: SUNG Heaven / Water. Action: Let Go. Hidden influence: 37 Balance. Underlying cause: 36 Emotion.
Ecological self – Priest/Priestess: to aspire.
I Ching 6 Peace
Polarity: Aggressive < Peaceful > Undisturbed
Everything we think is bad, such as conflict, is merely the partner of its opposite. The principle of polarities is a key element of transmutation where we learn how to transform energy from one side to the other. Every situation where there is conflict is an invitation for understanding higher truth. This is how we learn to inspire and uplift ourselves using this tension of transformation. It is through higher self-awareness that we master polarities, ourselves, and our emotional waves.
The lessons we learn are themed around realizing that conflict can only occur between two parties that are defending themselves against the other. Each side will feel justified in its position, otherwise the conflict could not occur. Peace is a choice we can make in every moment. Thoughts of attack make the idea of attack possible, and then affirms the choice by making the experience of attack real.
To cultivate this higher awareness of the tension of transformation we must open our minds to understanding life from a different perspective. It is only through a conscious choice of living a peaceful life that we will learn and have the evidence through our experience. Words are meaningless without the evidence and the inner realization that make them valuable.
The only thing worth fighting for in this world is inner peace.
Self-realization is a term used in psychology, philosophy, and spirituality to refer to fulfilling our needs to become an authentic self that lives to our fullest potential. Self-realization is what the game of life is really about, it is a process of individual empowerment and unifying our consciousness.
There are certain needs that we meet on the road to self-realization. They include physiological needs, safety needs, belonging, self-esteem, cognitive and aesthetic needs.
Self-realization is the road to inner peace and joy.
The 4 Phases of Self-realization
Undefined self
The undefined self is the homogenised self that has been developed through conditioning to fit into the family, community, and culture in which we find ourselves. Currently this is the state of most people.
At this stage, our individual’s sense of self is located outside, we are really living through others. What this means is that our value and worth is defined by others. We can feel powerless at this stage, feel unfulfilled, live a life that we do not like, feel depressed, be in co-dependent relationships, enmeshment, lack of trust in life, lack of enthusiasm, lack of emotional well-being, lack of purpose and isolation. Our intuition cannot function coherently when our sense of self is located outside of ourselves.
Authentic self
Individuation is the process by which we come to distinguish ourselves from others. In psychology it is understood as the process by which a self develops through integrating elements of our personality with life experiences. It is the part of our development where we transcend group attachment. This process can start in teenage years if the parents are emotionally mature enough themselves to accommodate uniqueness.
The defined self has healthy boundaries, developed self-awareness, is mindful of themselves and others, is emotionally mature, actively aspires, intuitive, and open minded. For the authentic self our sense of self is centered within ourselves, we meet our needs, and we work to integrate new knowledge and experiences.
Higher Self
As we embody more of our authentic self, our relationship with life, to others and the world transforms. We move beyond personal preferences and self interest. The wisdom that we gain through the process inspires us to live intentionally, as an example for others, and for a higher purpose.
At this stage we embody a much greater, and more refined frequency as matter and spirit come together. We experience a greater sense of fulfillment, vitality, synchronicity and abundance.
Liberated Self
The process of transformation and individuation can lead an individual to see the truth behind the veil of our worldly experience. We can truly know within ourselves that we are not the character, or roles we play here, but the player.
Have you ever wondered why life is the way it is? Have you noticed the patterns and the cycles that keep repeating? Have you ever thought that something about life or yourself is fake? Did you ever wonder why we are obsessed with love? Do you wonder why we love games so much? Do you ever wonder why everything has a polarity? Do you wonder why fear seems illogical at time? Did you ever consider that life has no inherit meaning? Did you ever consider that life is a game of pretend and make beliefs?
The psychology of projection shows us that we are an actor to others, and play the movie director casting actors in roles in our own fantasy, created from childhood conditioning, fears, and desires. Read more about this in Life as a Game.
My experience taught me that we can learn to see the bigger picture, and play from a higher perspective that leads to emotional freedom, inner peace, authentic joy, and a deep sense of fulfillment.
Birth Design
When we are conceived there is an energetic signature as light combines. As we develop our being is conditioned by the energetic fields in the environment we are in. When we are born we come into a very specific set of energetic frequencies that form a part of our development as our physical bodies start to interact with the outside environment and relationships are formed.
Spectrum of Consciousness
Polarities form the basis of our existence, we can study the spectrum of light, and there is a set of parameters to all the things we can experience, feel, and see around us. We are each a full spectrum being, containing good and bad. Patterns exist everywhere and at all levels. Everything we do, think and say matters to the universe as it evolves through us. We have so much more power than we realize. We are at the edge of creation, creating.
Attachment Style
From birth we begin to respond to the relationship our primary caregiver has with themselves. We will mirror and reflect how they feel about themselves. This provides us with core traits, fears, and desires that create the setup for our subjective game.
This initial setup is referred to as Attachment Theory in psychology. There are videos and other research available on the internet. Keep in mind that emotional needs are absolutely vital for survival, as we learned in studies where babies actually started dying when only their physical needs were met.
Insecure < > Secure < > Insecure
There are various classifications but in general there is a secure group and an insecure group (currently estimated to be 50% each in countries like the USA). Those who can form secure close attachments had their emotional needs met most of the time, feel they can trust others, and believe relationships are important and valuable.
The insecure group have developed relationship coping mechanisms in order to survive because they did not have their emotional needs met, do no feel safe, and do not trust to various degrees. The two extremes (about 25% each) are avoidant / dismissive and anxious. The two extremes do not know how to care for their own emotional well being. They come together in families and are attracted to each other in romantic relationships where they form dysfunctional and co-dependent dynamics. There is also a disorganized / disoriented classification.
Understanding this spectrum changed my life. We must understand that there is also an evolutionary purpose to this dynamic. In one study where they put a mixed group together in a room and then had smoke come out of a computer each group responded differently: The dismissive / avoidant left the room first without saying anything – these are the individuals who often bring new ideas into the world and dedicate their lives to achievement or excellence. The anxious group left the room next, but they first told some of the others there was a problem – these are often individuals who dedicate their lives to service. The securely attached individuals were the last to leave the room, some just following the others.
Childhood Conditioning
Our childhood conditioning provides us with the rest of the data that we will use to create our lives with. In order to fit into our family and the current culture we develop the relationship strategies and character traits that are approved of by our family and community, and we suppress, disown, reject or deny the parts of ourselves that our family/ community/ culture find less acceptable. These parts that are suppressed, disowned, rejected or denied will become the parts we see in others and the world until they are owned, accepted and embraced. To understand how this works study the psychology of projection, learn more about Emotional Well Being, and you can also read Life as a Game.
As we incarnate into this world we go through cycles of development and growth. For the first 7 years we experience the world primarily through our physical bodies, we absorb and explore.
We are literally in Theta brain wave state, and being programmed, like a form of hypnosis.
The second 7 year cycle is about emotional development and the third cycle is about intellectual development. The cycles then repeat throughout our lives.
For example, feeling powerless in any situation will remain with us for resolution. Anger masks fear and is a consequence of feeling powerless. Any experience during a cycle that we do not understand or that we are not able to integrate or resolve will remain in our system for resolution until the next opportunity or cycle.
The Psychology of Projection
What is in our mind will determine what we create, like a hard drive. This is why childhood conditioning is our toolbox with which we create, for better or worse, unless we consciously grow and expand our consciousness.
Images we see are desires and fears projected outward, and this is what we think we see, what we think is real and what we base our behavior on.
Everything we see is a projection from our mind. There is no objective reality. Everything we see reflects our own consciousness because we filter all information through our consciousness. This is the foundation of the psychology of projection, one of the primary tools that psychologists and therapists use today.
Everything we see in another is something we either acknowledge or suppress, reject, deny, or disown in ourselves. Anything someone else sees in us reflects their consciousness, otherwise they would not see it. Both positive and negative.
Shadow Work
Shadow work is the conscious process to understand what we see in others, how it reflects us, and what we can learn from it. I believe all relationships are meant for this purpose. Everyone is here to teach us something about ourselves so that we can fully integrate our consciousness.
Every bit of unresolved emotional pattern that we reintegrate is like a piece of gold that we mine. All parts are equally valuable in terms of consciousness integration, good and bad, because they are not real in themselves, they are just the basis of perception that creates the game.
When we are attracted to someone this is a clear indicator that we can learn something with that person. Nothing is random. Attraction does not mean we are meant to be together or compatible. We are like molecules that fit together. Through greater awareness and shadow work we can truly liberate our relationships.
Opportunities for Resolution & Expansion
I believe that there is no inherit meaning in the world and that we use our free will to assign meaning. While we think up all kinds of reasons for the things we do, we are really nature evolving itself. We live our purpose every moment of every day because every thought, word and action is an act of creation that expands consciousness. In other words we are always living our purpose.
For expansion to occur the universe integrates and unifies.
Evolutionary biologists see the dynamics of species as they evolve and to them it is clear that humans are currently in our young adult years where we learn how to work together and form beneficial relationships with those around us because conflict is no longer efficient. This means that allot of what we are doing here is cleaning up, integrating, releasing and refining. We are really learning The Art of Self Love. The relationship with ourselves come first, that is really what it is about, the relationship we have with ourselves will be reflected back to us. When we get to know ourselves we develop appreciation for the skills and traits we have. A personalized I Ching profile and report can be a great starting point for self exploration.
Every single situation or experience is in truth for no other purpose than to purify our physical, emotional and mental bodies. Every experience contains a piece of gold. The people and situations in our life are not random, they cannot be because energy is magnetic, and what comes to us is for our evolutionary benefit. When we embrace this dynamic we no longer take everything personally and we can see life from a more holistic perspective.
Rules of the Game
There are principles, laws and rules to the game that are impersonal. These are laws that are fundamental to time/space physics and energy dynamics. Read The Rules of the Game for the whole list.
The path less traveled is the path to self fulfillment and self actualization.
There are two primary levels in the game, ego level and higher self level. All fears belong to the ego and are doorways to the higher self. The goal of the game is to clean our system so that we can host our higher self.
Nobody is a victim here, in any way. It is the victim mindset that we transcend when we learn to elevate ourselves above fearful reactions.
When we recognize that the source of all we have is life, that nothing really belongs to any of us it sets us free from worldly / material attachment which causes the experience of suffering.
Because perspectives and perceptions are learned we must learn to choose our beliefs and act accordingly.
Anything is possible when we believe wholeheartedly and act in harmony with life and our higher self.
While many still live in denial of our higher spiritual nature, it is only a matter of time because it is what this whole game is designed for. Once our system is purified, we have expanded sufficiently to become the host to our greater energetic self, and this presence is unmistakable. Once we are no longer value the ego and the material world above our spiritual nature we enter into a different level of the game. Everything is designed to push us towards opportunities that will allow for the greatest expansion. There is allot of information about mythology, archetypes, and the hero’s journey because it is such an integral part of the game. We find these themes repeating in our movies, games, and fantasies because we are living them ourselves even if we are not aware of it.
A call to adventure is an experience or situation that requires us to open our mind, face the unknown, our limiting beliefs and fears. A call to adventure starts with a catalyst, it can be any emotionally charged situation, and end or a beginning, or when our ego has been wounded. For example: a death, a birth, a new relationship, end of a relationship, a vision, a visitor, financial or other loss, an accident, an illness, trauma, and global or regional events like a pandemic. The event charge must be big enough that it creates an opening for new awareness.
Accepting the call is another story because there is free will we always have a choice. Due to conditioning many of us avoid or fear pain and suffering without realizing that it is just as important as the good stuff. Suffering is really a gift for transformation and growth. Being depressed or unhappy is a sign that you are ready to move to a higher level but are refusing consciously or unconsciously. We will be presented with opportunities all the time because it is what we are here for.
Transformation
When we accept the call to expand, we enter a process of alchemy and transformation. This process is ongoing and unique for each of us. Through my own experience I have outlined the basic structure of the process. Read about the Process of Transformation.
The process of transformation is about moving from a frequency of fear to a frequency of love. The process includes a catalyst, a period of solitude, health and diet changes, a healthy environment, self-inquiry, expanding our perspective of life, releasing old thoughts, emotions and beliefs, learning self-love, growing in self awareness, regaining complete trust in life, inviting higher consciousness, experiencing inner peace, creating inner stillness, expanding our ability to experience gratitude and joy.
Personalized I Ching Profile & report
Take a look at the Personalized I Ching Profile and Reports that you can order on this website, it includes a large poster that you can print. The profile is based on astrology, and inspired by the I Ching, and systems based on the I Ching like Human Design, and the Gene Keys. The profile is a tool to get to know ourselves better. The I Ching is a wise book for contemplation based on binary (64 themes). Through this work we can expand our consciousness, integrate all aspects of ourselves and learn to trust life.
The I Ching is Chinese and the oldest of all the classical systems, from around 800 BCE. It is a great universal model and one of the oldest books in the world. It is based on simple binary (what our computers are built on) with 64 themes. In its original form it guides through the ways of nature, and provides wisdom for contemplation and insightful answers to questions.
A Universal Model
The hexagrams that form the basis of the I Ching are from the Bagua, in Taoist Cosmology. It is the 8 symbols that represent the basic principles of existence. It is represented by the 8 trigrams, 8 elements of nature: Earth, Wind, Fire, Thunder, Mountain, Water, Lake, and Heaven. Each trigram has three lines, each line either “open” or “solid”, representing yin or yang, 0 or 1 forming binary numbers 000-111 (0 to 7).
Intuitive Geometry & the I Ching
I had some knowledge of the I Ching Hexagrams by the time I got into geometryand created the Intuitive Geometry book. Intuitive Geometry is intended to be a universal model to draw and design based on the same kind of universal structure so that Intuitive Geometry becomes a framework for an infinite number of projects. I believe the Intuitive Geometry system can be a great educational tool because we learn so much easier with colors and patterns.
I Ching Diagram
The 8 Trigrams from the I Ching / Bagua: Earth, Wind, Fire, Thunder, Mountain, Water, Lake, and Heaven with their corresponding binary, Chinese and Intuitive Geometry icons.
Spectrum of Consciousness
The 64 hexagrams is a useful tool for exploring something as complex as the spectrum of human consciousness. Looking at the spectrum of consciousness through 8 primary themes makes it simpler to see a larger perspective while appreciating the subtle essence of each.
The 64 Hexagrams from the I Ching / Bagua. Earth, Wind, Fire, Thunder, Mountain, Water, Lake, and Heaven
Your Personalized I Ching Profile & Report
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Your personalized profile and report contain your design aspects, personality, powers, gifts, uniqueness, passion, life tasks, possibilities, destiny and keys for life fulfillment.
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Female and Male Profiles are available. The Profile Poster Prints up to 900×600 mm / 35,4 x 23,6 inches.
Female and Male Profiles are available. The Profile Poster Prints up to 900×600 mm / 35,4 x 23,6 inches.
The Profile Report is approximately 8 to 11 pages long. It includes a short description of each Hexagram that is active in your design, which position / theme they are in.
I recommend further study of the I Ching, Human Design system, Gene Keys, Kabbalah, Chakras, Astrology, Psychological Archetypes, personality spectrum, Numerology, Advaita Vedanta etc.
Others reflect the love we give to ourselves, prove it to yourself. We can only care for another’s emotional well-being when we know how to care for our own. Honesty and acceptance allow us to open a secret door to our inner self. Intimacy is about seeing, feeling, hearing, understanding and knowing our authentic true self. Authentic Self love is the highest vibration frequency in this world. This means meeting our needs, and giving to ourselves what we would want someone else to give to us. Self sacrifice, and selfishness are the lower vibrations of self love.
The Languages of Self Love
Words of Self-affirmation
Encouragement, appreciation, empathy, honesty, listening to ourselves, focussing on our higher self. Showing ourselves compassion and speaking kindly to ourselves. Soothe ourselves during stressful times with positive statements and affirming truths. Daily use of Personal affirmations – listening, writing, reading, speaking, chanting, and singing. Journaling to understand one self, recognize our gifts, heal, and grow.
Gifts of Self-Love
Cultivating self awareness. Thoughtful gifts and gestures from the heart, and with expressions of gratitude. Gifts that nourish our mind, body, soul and spirit. Recognizing all the gifts we receive by just being alive, recognizing that the source of all we have is life, nothing really belongs to any of us. This sets us free. Being grateful to life is receiving a gift, it fills us. Investing in ourselves. Making our thoughts our best friends. Recognizing our efforts and being open to feedback for growth. Having patience with our own growth. Relaxing and taking time to enjoy just being.
Acts of Self-Service
Action phrases that affirm positive beliefs, supports growth, releases grievances. Doing what is in our best interest and for the highest benefit of all. Meeting our needs in healthy ways. Meeting our emotional needs. Developing talents and interests. Making our physical and emotional well being our priority and our responsibility to the greatest degree possible. Following our authentic joy. Being authentic. Cultivating higher aspirations for our life. Facing our pain, healing the past and opening our hearts. Saying No. Saying no to co-dependency and yes to interdependency. Setting and maintaining healthy boundaries. Living a higher purpose. Friendship. Living with positive intentions and empowering others. Balance in giving and receiving support.
Quality Self-Time
Uninterrupted and focused conversations, writing, journaling, using a diary, recording, prayer, any one-on-one time with ourselves. Stillness is quality time. Meditation. Contemplation and introspection. Self-inquiry. Creative expression. Honoring ourselves, our feelings, and our needs. Doing something special or unusual for ourselves. Reading or watching uplifting content. Time in Nature. Rest, recovery, and sleep.
Being Present in our Body
Non-verbal expressions such as touch, cuddling, stroking, massage, moving meditations, acts of self-care, long baths, warm shower, spa, exercise, hygiene, grooming, pampering, masturbating, tantra, yoga, dancing, qigong etc. Learning to trust our body’s inner wisdom. Paying attention to ourselves, our feelings, our thoughts, and being mindful.
The Spectrum of the Self
Physical Aspect
This is us as the Liberator, and the highest manifestation is Love. The skills we develop are Intuition (Intuiting) and Willing (Affirming). This is the field of Self-Love and Love of Others.
Instinctive self – Server: to help.
Tribal self – Nurtuer. to nurture.
Emotional Aspect
This is us as the Actor, and the highest manifestation is Grace. The skills we develop are Judging (Contemplation) and Feeling (Compassion). This is the field of Integrated Psychology.
Emotional self – Sage: to train.
Rational self – Scholar: to learn.
Spiritual Aspect
This is us as the Inquirer, and the highest manifestation is Peace. The skills we develop are Prospecting (Investigation) and Sensing (Sensation). This is the field of Ecological Science.
Achiever self – Warrior: to achieve.
Ecological self – Priest/Priestess: to aspire.
Mental Aspect
This is us as the Creator, and the highest manifestation is Joy. The skills we develop are Observation (Observing) and Imagination (Concentration). This is the field of Arts and Culture.
We can understand ourselves through 4 primary areas of development: Physical, Emotional, Spiritual, and Mental. Balance is achieved when these areas are in harmony with each other. Everything is about the relationship with our self. Read more about The Art of Self Love.
To integrate or unify our consciousness into a harmonious whole we must consider each aspect of our self. Within each of us we find the: instinctive self, tribal self, emotional self, rational self, achiever self, ecological self, integrated self, and holistic self. Each one of these selves has different needs and each is integrated into the next before holism is achieved.
Think of it as a playful road map of the self that we can use for the path of self-realization or self-fulfillment.
The Spectrum of the Self
Physical Aspect
This is us as the Liberator, and the highest manifestation is Love. The skills we develop are Willing (Affirmation) and Intuition (Intuiting). This is the field of Self-Love and Love of Others.
Instinctive self – Server: to help.
Tribal self – Nurtuer. to nurture.
Emotional Aspect
This is us as the Actor, and the highest manifestation is Grace. The skills we develop are Feeling (Compassion) and Judging (Contemplation). This is the field of Integrated Psychology.
Emotional self – Sage: to train.
Rational self – Scholar: to learn.
Spiritual Aspect
This is us as the Inquirer, and the highest manifestation is Peace. The skills we develop are Prospecting (Investigation) and Sensing (Sensation). This is the field of Ecological Science.
Achiever self – Warrior: to achieve.
Ecological self – Priest/Priestess: to aspire.
Mental Aspect
This is us as the Creator, and the highest manifestation is Joy. The skills we develop are Observation (Observing) and Imagination (Concentration). This is the field of Arts and Culture.
Integrated self – King/Queen: to be a role model.
Holistic self – Higher Self: to create
Purpose is not a future goal; it is something we are doing in every single moment. Everything that comes into our space is there so that we can fulfill the purpose presented to us in the moment.
If we find ourselves in an unhappy place it is because we have not learned how to make ourselves happy. If we see things in the world or our life that we do not like, then it is because there are parts in ourselves that we are not in harmony with. For example, if your life is complicated then you have not integrated the part of you that loves simplicity. We all have all parts; we cannot deny parts of ourselves without feeling and seeing the consequences.
Painful experiences teach us about vulnerability and when we have tough experiences it often reflects a great unconscious desire to transcend the shadow frequency. Nothing is without reason; every moment has a purpose it fulfills. Fears are always gateways to higher awareness. When we stop seeing suffering as such, and choose to see the opportunity it brings then we do not suffer.
We are not the character/roles/personality, we are really the player. We can expand our consciousness to see the ebb and flow of events, with appreciation or compassion, but without losing ourselves in it.
My life experiences have led me to conclude that life is a game, a game of spiritual transformation, and the name of the game is “Who do I think I am?” Read more about this idea in Life as a Game. It doesn’t mean I am right, but it does mean I am brave enough to share my opinion.
Here are some rules I am discovering along the way:
Only the rules of the game matter.
Recognize that the source of all we have is life, nothing really belongs to any of us. This sets us free.
Nobody is a victim here, in any way. It is the victim mindset that we transcend when we learn to elevate ourselves above fearful reactions.
There are two primary levels in the game, ego level and higher self level. All fears belong to the ego and are doorways to the higher self. The goal of the game is to clean our system so that we can host our higher self.
Any action taken out of fear will create the exact thing we hope to avoid.
Beyond Good and Evil
Our Player self is beyond good and evil. There is no judgement.
Heaven (peace, love, joy) is a state of mind that is born out of the shadow self.
The mind is the only thing that affects the game.
The earth and our bodies are holographic bio computers, and the body is a learning device for the mind.
We come here to experience the full spectrum of possibilities through many seemingly different lives. We must complete the entire curriculum before graduating.
Faith or Determination
We must take responsibility for ourselves. We must cultivate either faith or determination to rise above the fear fog.
Our game is relative to our life, nothing is random, everything in our path is for our benefit, no matter what it may look like it is a part of the quest we are on.
The challenger is our ego self (the personality we think we are, the characters and roles we have been conditioned to play).
The Goal
The goal of the game is Self Realization (to know ourselves authentically by filling ourselves with truth and joy).
There are an infinite number of paths to the truth.
We must choose authentic joy, it is our uniqueness and where our genius is.
Through our joy we learn that to give is to receive.
Compassion and appreciation are the best responses in any situation.
To let the body go at the time of death knowing that death is not real.
Expanding Consciousness
The primary quest is to give up belief in illusions. Illusions include the entire world and our ego as one projection. We joyfully give up all mental attachments to the ego and the material world and open to receive pure source energy.
We must learn to use the laws of opposites to reintegrate our consciousness. We must aspire through consistent effort to expand our consciousness to a holistic level.
Leveling Up
We level up by collecting the gold from every experience. This means we use whatever comes to us as an opportunity to lift us higher and make us wiser.
We must face our pain, go through it, forgive and choose integrity.
Perspectives and perceptions are learned. There is no inherit meaning, only that which is chosen to be seen or unseen. We must learn to choose our beliefs and act accordingly.
Anything is possible when we believe wholeheartedly and act in harmony.
When we start to unplug the system will challenge us in every way.
We are like molecules that fit into each other. From a passing glimpse, a friendship to a romantic tale, they are the ones that we are magnetically attracted to. Attraction is something completely impersonal for the purpose of learning and evolution because everyone we come into contact with is seen through the filters of our own projections and mental filters.
If we can look at attraction as something designed for learning, to show us our shadow and to trigger unresolved emotional issues for resolution, then we can liberate our relationships.
Integrity
Emotional immaturity is probably the greatest barrier to harmonious relationships. Unresolved issues that present themselves as emotional reactions break down the trust in a relationship because they are fear based.
In the earlier stages of new relationships the reality is often obscured, especially when we have conditioned relationship strategies based on insecure attachment. We mirror each other both consciously and unconsciously, in order for things to flow, and then as the relationship progresses we allow more of ourselves to be seen because we feel safe, and things we can’t hide indefinitely start to show, and so incompatibilities can take anything from a few weeks, months or years to show. We think people change but we just become more ourselves in relationships over time.
In order for harmony to be maintained in any relationship it will require commitment and balancing the masculine and feminine aspects within each individual and with each other. Shadow work and healthy boundaries are essential for self-development and harmonious relationships.
Integrity is the foundation of any authentic or emotionally mature relationship. A mature relationship respects the unique individual, and is found on trust and mutual understanding.
Higher Purpose
From a higher perspective we meet exactly the right people at the right time based on our current configuration in order to develop our spiritual self which requires awareness, release, and forgiveness.
The moment we start casting people into roles in our lives we get up to all kinds of interesting stories. We lose ourselves in make-believe-I-am-a-some-body, sometimes with hundreds of roles.
Ultimately psychological projection shows that we are an actor to others, and play the movie director casting actors in roles in our own fantasy, created from childhood conditioning, fears, and desires. Read more about it in Life as a game.
As a game of spiritual development with the goal of self-realization, self-fulfillment, and self-love nothing is ever random and there are people with whom we have bonds that go beyond any conscious human understanding.
The Spectrum of Relationships
The Spectrum of Relationships is a framework to understand the nature and purpose of different relationships in our lives. Our subjective human experience is an evolution of awareness so we are often not aware of our own situation or potential without seeing a larger picture. We often do now allow relationships to serve their purpose because we become entangled in beliefs and values we adopted from our society and culture. Fear prevents many people from moving on to better and more harmonious relationships because they are not aware that this is a primary feature of the design of the entire system of life.
When we trust life, focus on getting our lessons in every situation, listen to the feedback we get from life, master ourselves, master our desires, and take the necessary actions to achieve self-realization through our higher purpose and self-fulfillment we will allow our lives to unfold and continuously move into higher and higher frequencies.
Family
The family that we are born into is not random at all. In most cases it will bring opposites come together in order to allow for the greatest expansion. A parent who cannot sit still will inevitably have a child who embodies stillness, or the father who is a major financial achiever will inevitable have a child who cannot or will not be a similar achiever.
Our families are probably the least compatible individuals we spend a significant amount of time with. Conditioning in this way allows for the greatest amount of diversity and potential. It is very important that children are allowed to individuate. It requires some level of emotional maturity in the parents otherwise we end up with enmeshment, co-dependency and other unhealthy dynamics. Many people never become who they really are because they fear the loss of connection from their family. Many of us do not mature if our family are not emotionally mature, and maturing requires us to change the relationship we have with our family, sometimes we have to let go. The world needs people who see things differently, and are willing to do things differently.
Chance Encounters
Just being in the same space as someone else affects us in ways that we cannot always understand with our conscious mind because of projection and the exchange of energy that takes place. Just one meeting with someone that embodies a frequency we have never encountered will noticeably affect us. We can meet someone at an art exhibition or a gas station that deeply affects us. We just never forget some people because they represent some part in ourselves. Once we can see the world from a metaphysical perspective and understand the psychology of projection it is easier to grasp these encounters and their purpose in our lives.
Friendship
Friendships have the potential to be the best type of relationship because they can be free from compulsions. Friendships can last from a few hours, days, or a lifetime. When a relationship is free from compulsion it has the greatest opportunity to teach us because we can be honest with each other, learn the most about ourselves, others, and the world. In a friendship we have the greatest amount of freedom to change and evolve as we focus on our own development.
Romance
Our deep desire for spiritual reunion (energetic reunion with our source) is the foundation of attraction. When the attraction is strong enough it can be an incredibly powerful force. Love is the foundation of this universe and we prove it to ourselves all the time. There are many different types of romantic relationships, from fantasy relationships, casual encounters, short term hookups, a few months, and then longer term relationships.
Romantic relationships are connections that focus predominately in the lower 4 chakras / energy centers (root, sacral, navel, and solar plexus). The only relationships that can be harmonious and long lasting include mutual growth and development towards self actualization which requires the relationship to move into the hear chakra and through to the higher chakras / energy centers (heart, thyroid, throat, eye, and crown), which makes it a soul mate or sacred partnership. The reason these higher chakra relationships are still in the minority is because romantic love is primarily associated with fulfilling basic needs like safety, stability, security, emotional experiences, desires, sexual and physically intimate experiences, ego gratification, self-esteem, and other pleasure based experiences. In general these are superficial ego based romances that are for reproduction. These can be short or long, troubled, intense and commonly involve children.
Most romantic relationships are individuals who come together because their trauma bonds are compatible. These are relationships that come to help us heal unresolved emotional trauma. They are not healthy relationships, often inauthentic (even unconsciously), codependent, and often have a similar dynamic we had with our parents, especially if we have a difficult relationship with one parent. Once we become aware of how our past affects our current relationships, do the work to heal our emotional body, and learn to distinguish between healthy and unhealthy love, then our relationship template is updated and we will attract healthier partners into our lives. Sometimes some people come into our lives simply so that we can say no, I have learned the lesson.
Karmic Relationships
Karmic Relationships are relationships between individuals that are for the purpose of manifesting karma and situations to resolve emotional trauma. This means that these relationships cannot and will not evolve past the 4 lower charkas / energy centers (root, sacral, navel, and solar plexus). Trauma bonds, as mentioned above, will be present along with incompatibility and general disharmony. What sets a karmic relationship apart from other relationship types is that there will be a lack of unconditional love, and they can be extremely difficult to detach from because most people have allot of unresolved emotional trauma from just living in the current world.
These relationships are energetic bonds created with our root, sacral, navel, and solar plexus energy centers / chakras which makes them very intense (or later very boring), compulsive, and we often loose our unique identity in these relationships because their presence requires a lack of development in the solar plexus center which governs our will, self-confidence, and self-assurance.
Trauma bonds are very deep energetic blocks in our energy field, and in order to free ourselves from these bonds we have to integrate allot of unconscious information. Transcending these relationships requires us to do emotional body work, some form of therapy, gain deeper psychological self-awareness, and become self-empowered. This is why so many people get stuck in these relationships.
Think of individuals who are in unhealthy relationships with their parents, or a couple who cannot seem to let go of their passionate but troubled relationship no matter what they do. Karmic relationships can often be associated with violence and aggression because they are triggering deep immature emotional energy.
It can be dangerous to continue in these relationships once the universe has presented opportunities for the individuals to move apart. Remaining in these relationships after the emotional triggers have occurred can affect everything in our lives, and everything we attempt to create. Once these relationships come to an end it is vital for the individuals to spend enough time on their own in order to process the lessons they learned, otherwise they will repeat the same lessons in the next relationship they get involved in.
Soul Mates
Soul Mates are those soul connections that starts to open our hearts. They are connections that form in the lower 4 chakras / energy centers and into the heart center. They are meaningful bonds where a deeper authentic connection is possible when there is complementary compatibility and maturity.
In Soul Mate connections we we get to know our authentic self, our conditioning, and we learn what it means to experience greater degrees of unconditional love. They can still be a positive or negative experience depending on our attachment style, masculine and feminine balance, current energetic configuration, relationship template, and level of awareness.
These experiences are powerful drivers for the Process of transformation and shadow work because they teach us what we really want, and need in order to be self-empowered individuals. We are always provided with what we need to expand our consciousness, realize inner truth, and achieve self-fulfillment. Authentic Self-love is the highest vibration frequency in this world.
If both individuals are mature enough we learn how to grow in love and share life experiences with another through interdependence, healthy boundaries, and self-fulfillment.
Sacred Partnerships & Twin Flames
A true Sacred Partnership or Twin Flame connection is an uplifting, loving, compassionate, mature, and lasting relationship with a companion that is truly compatible on a physical, mental, emotional and spiritual level. These Sacred Partnerships are beyond romance even if they may contain it, and they are identified by the devotion of two individuals to their individual higher purpose and self-actualization.
These connections have the possibility of connecting through all 9 chakras / energy centers: root, sacral, navel, solar plexus, heart, thyroid, throat, eye, and crown. This type of relationship is only possible when the lower 4 chakras / energy centers are coherent, and the emotional body has been healed to a great extent. These relationships are recognized by the unconditional love that is present because these individuals have balanced their masculine and feminine aspects within themselves, developed self-love, and unconditional love within themselves which they can now share. Because the heart connection is present it allows the individuals to continue to do their personal transformation for self-actualization in a safe space. In these relationships nothing is hidden and we are continuously expressing our authentic self and our needs. These relationships are for individuals who are consciously realizing inner truth, developing their intuition and higher abilities, self-actualizing, and growing in their spiritual connection to all of life.
The easiest way to distinguish these relationships is that they are harmonious 95% of the time and they will not be focused on issues relating to safety, security, emotions, lower frequency desires, sexuality, and self-assurance because these individuals have already worked through the issues relating to the lower chakras and their lives, and lifestyle will be the evidence for it.
Holy Relationships & Twin Flames
In some cases the universe will bring together two individuals who are each other’s extreme opposite, black and white, to such a degree that they are not compatible for any other relationship but a holy one intended for spiritual liberation, shadow work, and unconditional love. A holy relationship serves the collective by bringing two individuals together for energy exchange and awareness so that they can balance the masculine and feminine aspects within themselves, and then with each other. These two individuals will have a magnetic attraction, but can exhibit polar opposite traits, habits, values, beliefs, and they can dislike many things about each other initially. This energetic dynamic may be obscured initially through projection or it may not, but time will reveal the purpose of the relationship.
The defining factor for a holy relationships is that the two individuals can develop a spiritual bond that transcends both friendship and romance, even if they may include it at various stages, and that can last for the rest of their lives. It is important not to confuse a holy relationship with a sacred partnership which is a relationship based on compatibility and complementary traits, habits, values, and beliefs.
Animal Companions
Animal Companions have always played a significant role in human relationships and they still do. For many people, specifically those with insecure attachment, it is vital for their survival because animals, and especially dogs, channel source energy without much resistance. This means that the animal becomes a source of unconditional love and acceptance. Animals can play a similar mirroring role that humans do where they can teach us about our conditioning, and that is why we often see some similarities between the human and their animal companion. The relationship also creates a safe space where we can develop certain skills required for holistic development and personal growth such as the capacity for intimacy, trust, and unconditional love. Animal companions can also help humans regulate their nervous system, be mindful, and balance their hormones. One of the greatest gifts of an animal companion is the ability to do inner child work together.
Spirit Relationships
Spiritual relationships play different roles in various cultures and can vary greatly due to the individual subjective experience of life, conditioning, and the innate abilities each human vehicle has and can develop. The most significant aspect of this relationship is that it has the ability to create a secure relationship for an individual and allow them to develop trust, intuitive abilities, understanding, insight and unconditional love. This relationship can be with an imaginary friend, an ancient spiritual master, a god, gods, spiritual guides, ancestors, thought forms, and other energetic beings that inhabit different dimensions including the collective unconscious. With these relationships the purpose and benefit is more important than the type. These relationships can be both positive and negative, negative experiences are learning opportunities, usually to develop strength and awareness.
All things supernatural, energy forms, thought forms, aliens, spirits, and other worldly beings are all different forms of energy that exist in different dimensions. We can experience and see them depending on our own level of awareness. They are as we are, and subject to polarity to various degrees because we are all part of the manifested worlds. Consciousness is the source of all forms, beyond all of it, and beyond the polarity of good, and bad.
Spiritual Guide Relationships
Those who have expanded their consciousness and achieved coherence in all 9 energy centers (root, sacral, navel, solar plexus, heart, thyroid, throat, eye, and crown) are a special gift to the world and those individuals who come into contact with them. Ultimately they make us aware of our own potential and inspire us to expand our own consciousness. Our experience of a Spiritual Guide varies depending on our own current level of awareness.
Higher Love
As we dissolve the unnecessary through the Process of transformation and the tension for transformation we open our vehicle to greater love frequencies, and embody our higher self or soul consciousness. Through the process of self-love, self-knowing, self-realization, self-actualization, and self-fulfillment we no longer see ourselves as the character or roles. When we are no longer attached to our personality we can see and experience life, and love, from a metaphysical perspective. In this state of unconditional love, love it is all around us, felt in everything and we see the beauty and truth in everyone.
After sincere long-term consideration, I think that life is a game, a game of spiritual transformation, and the name of the game is “Who do I think I am?”
‘A Game’ is the only perspective where everything makes sense to me. It does not mean I am right, but it does mean that I am brave enough to share my opinion.
The experiences I have had in my life are unbelievable to many people. I am living evidence that nothing here is what it seems.
Everything we see is a projection from our mind. The mind has an image of what it desires, judges as valuable and then seeks to find it. These images are projected outward, and this is what we think we see, what we think is real and what we base our behavior on. What we see is unique for each of us. What we see in others is a reflection of our own consciousness. Therefore, what is in our mind will determine what we create. This is why childhood conditioning and the past is our toolbox with which we create, both the positive and negative, unless we consciously release the past, grow and expand ourselves continuously. Every word we speak and every thought we consciously think is our inherited creative ability to manifest in this world. Liberation is about expanding our consciousness so that we can see ourselves and the world for what it truly is. There are an infinite number of paths to this truth.
We are an actor to others, and play the movie director casting actors in roles in our own fantasy, created from childhood conditioning, fears, and desires.
We lose our Self in make-believe-I-am-a-some-body, sometimes with hundreds of roles. This is the ego’s games, but we are not the characters, we are truly the players. We can create whatever we want, none of them were real or ever will be. Nothing needs to be forgiven because it never really happened. Our vehicle has an expiry date, but we do not.
We can clear ourselves of roles through conscious release, and take the necessary action to liberate our relationships. This is part of the process of transformation.
Question every single moment, remain present as the player to see the truth for yourself. Nothing is what we think it is.
Liberate yourself.
Imagine your vehicle has an entire spectrum of possibilities when it comes to skill and trait development like a dashboard in the best game you can imagine. Most of us only develop the skills and traits that our parents wanted or did not want us to because it kept us safe, got their approval or attention.
Imagine for a moment you are none of those things, that none of it was real, that the past truly does not exist. What would you think then, or do, or where would you go if you had nothing to hold you?
People experience purposelessness because they are looking for purpose based on limiting beliefs. Every moment is our purpose. Every moment we are making choices that affect our consciousness and therefore our development and transformation.
When we actually allow ourselves to let life be, it feels almost orchestrated.
Our quests and challenges come in the form of limiting beliefs, conditioning, fears and desires. They are doorways to our greater Self.
We deny ourselves the magic when we let limiting beliefs and our fears dictate our reality. For most of my life I was lost in what I thought others wanted me to be. What I genuinely wanted required me to surrender to a force I did not know in a world I did not trust. The most challenging part was letting go of all the things I had filled my life with, without questioning any of it. We can get stuck so easily, taking life seriously when it is never intended to be that.
When we remove all but the essential from our life, things become a whole lot simpler and clearer. When we become discerning about how and with whom we spend our time things can become meaningful.
If we trust that the universe will bring to us exactly what we need in every moment to grow, then life can be an adventure.
When we can be present as the player, we have access to a greater range of skills, abilities, and information. It is a more resourceful state.
Our minds are a tool to process information and our bodies are a learning tool for the mind. If we look at the world as a game we remain curious, and alert for clues and learning opportunities.
When we make no assumptions about anything then the universe can communicate directly with us. Be free from limiting beliefs. It is really the ultimate adventure. It is a wild ride where things are not in our control, all we have is free will to choose. Make the changes you want inside of yourself first. If we want to feel more love, then we must do things for ourselves that make us feel loved. We must expand your idea of what love is, and claim our creative power.
True freedom only comes when the game is recognized for what it is. It is not resolved from the level of the mind.
Salvation is in the last place we will look for it, inside ourselves. Nobody is victim here in any way whatsoever. You are your liberator.
