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The Process of Self-Realization

The Process of Self-Realization by Nathalie Strassburg
  1. What is Self-realization?
  2. The 4 Phases of Self-realization
  3. The 10 Key Elements of Self-Realization

What is Self-realization?

Self-realization is knowing yourself.

Self-realization is a term used in psychology, philosophy, and spirituality to refer to fulfilling our needs to become an authentic self that lives to our fullest potential. The process of Self-realization is what the game of life is really about, it is a process of individual empowerment and unifying our consciousness.

There are certain needs that we meet on the road to self-realization. They include physiological needs, safety needs, belonging, self-esteem, cognitive and aesthetic needs.


Self-realization is the road to inner peace and joy.

The 4 Phases of Self-realization

Undefined self

The undefined self is the homogenised self that has been developed through conditioning to fit into the family, community, and culture in which we find ourselves. Currently this is the state of most people.

At this stage, our individual’s sense of self is located outside, we are really living through others. What this means is that our value and worth is defined by others. We can feel powerless at this stage, feel unfulfilled, live a life that we do not like, feel depressed, be in co-dependent relationships, enmeshment, lack of trust in life, lack of enthusiasm, lack of emotional well-being, lack of purpose and isolation. Our intuition cannot function coherently when our sense of self is located outside of ourselves.

Authentic self

Individuation is the process by which we come to distinguish ourselves from others. In psychology it is understood as the process by which a self develops through integrating elements of our personality with life experiences. It is the part of our development where we transcend group attachment. This process can start in teenage years if the parents are emotionally mature enough themselves to accommodate uniqueness.

The defined self has healthy boundaries, developed self-awareness, is mindful of themselves and others, is emotionally mature, actively aspires, intuitive, and open minded. For the authentic self our sense of self is centered within ourselves, we meet our needs, and we work to integrate new knowledge and experiences.

Higher Self

As we embody more of our authentic self, our relationship with life, to others and the world transforms. We move beyond personal preferences and self interest. The wisdom that we gain through the process inspires us to live intentionally, as an example for others, and for a higher purpose.

At this stage we embody a much greater, and more refined frequency as matter and spirit come together. We experience a greater sense of fulfillment, vitality, synchronicity and abundance.

Liberated Self

The process of transformation and individuation can lead an individual to see the truth behind the veil of our worldly experience. We can truly know within ourselves that we are not the character, or roles we play here, but the player.

The 10 Key Elements of Self-Realization

  1. Self-awareness and body-awareness.
  2. Self-acceptance and self-love.
  3. Self-nurturing and cultivation.
  4. Emotional well-being and maturity.
  5. Mindfulness and conscious decision making.
  6. Self-inquiry and investigation (questioning everything, especially habits and beliefs).
  7. Open-mindedness, aspiring to higher truths and higher purpose.
  8. Expanded perspectives, meta cognition, meditation, stillness.
  9. Perseverance and devotion.
  10. Equanimity and the ability to integrate polarities.

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Life as a Game

Life as a Game by Nathalie Strassburg

After sincere long-term consideration, I think that life is a game, a game of spiritual transformation, and the name of the game is “Who do I think I am?”

‘A Game’ is the only perspective where everything makes sense to me. It does not mean I am right, but it does mean that I am brave enough to share my opinion.

The experiences I have had in my life are unbelievable to many people. I am living evidence that nothing here is what it seems.


Everything we see is a projection from our mind. The mind has an image of what it desires, judges as valuable and then seeks to find it. These images are projected outward, and this is what we think we see, what we think is real and what we base our behavior on. What we see is unique for each of us. What we see in others is a reflection of our own consciousness. Therefore, what is in our mind will determine what we create. This is why childhood conditioning and the past is our toolbox with which we create, both the positive and negative, unless we consciously release the past, grow and expand ourselves continuously. Every word we speak and every thought we consciously think is our inherited creative ability to manifest in this world. Liberation is about expanding our consciousness so that we can see ourselves and the world for what it truly is. There are an infinite number of paths to this truth.

We are an actor to others, and play the movie director casting actors in roles in our own fantasy, created from childhood conditioning, fears, and desires.


We lose our Self in make-believe-I-am-a-some-body, sometimes with hundreds of roles. This is the ego’s games, but we are not the characters, we are truly the players. We can create whatever we want, none of them were real or ever will be. Nothing needs to be forgiven because it never really happened. Our vehicle has an expiry date, but we do not.

We can clear ourselves of roles through conscious release, and take the necessary action to liberate our relationships. This is part of the process of transformation.

Question every single moment, remain present as the player to see the truth for yourself. Nothing is what we think it is.

Liberate yourself.

Imagine your vehicle has an entire spectrum of possibilities when it comes to skill and trait development like a dashboard in the best game you can imagine. Most of us only develop the skills and traits that our parents wanted or did not want us to because it kept us safe, got their approval or attention.

Imagine for a moment you are none of those things, that none of it was real, that the past truly does not exist. What would you think then, or do, or where would you go if you had nothing to hold you?

People experience purposelessness because they are looking for purpose based on limiting beliefs. Every moment is our purpose. Every moment we are making choices that affect our consciousness and therefore our development and transformation.


When we actually allow ourselves to let life be, it feels almost orchestrated.

Our quests and challenges come in the form of limiting beliefs, conditioning, fears and desires. They are doorways to our greater Self.  

We deny ourselves the magic when we let limiting beliefs and our fears dictate our reality. For most of my life I was lost in what I thought others wanted me to be. What I genuinely wanted required me to surrender to a force I did not know in a world I did not trust. The most challenging part was letting go of all the things I had filled my life with, without questioning any of it.  We can get stuck so easily, taking life seriously when it is never intended to be that.

When we remove all but the essential from our life, things become a whole lot simpler and clearer. When we become discerning about how and with whom we spend our time things can become meaningful.

If we trust that the universe will bring to us exactly what we need in every moment to grow, then life can be an adventure.

When we can be present as the player, we have access to a greater range of skills, abilities, and information. It is a more resourceful state.

Our minds are a tool to process information and our bodies are a learning tool for the mind. If we look at the world as a game we remain curious, and alert for clues and learning opportunities.

When we make no assumptions about anything then the universe can communicate directly with us. Be free from limiting beliefs. It is really the ultimate adventure. It is a wild ride where things are not in our control, all we have is free will to choose. Make the changes you want inside of yourself first. If we want to feel more love, then we must do things for ourselves that make us feel loved. We must expand your idea of what love is, and claim our creative power.     

True freedom only comes when the game is recognized for what it is. It is not resolved from the level of the mind.


Salvation is in the last place we will look for it, inside ourselves. Nobody is victim here in any way whatsoever. You are your liberator.

We become the evidence of truth.

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